I always fought so hard to be equal to my husband. Yeah, yeah … define equal and all that. From my perspective equality came with an equivalent income and a career choice that ensured future success and status. I had power and I fought to keep it. What I didn’t know – and what whacked me in the face this morning somewhere between kilometre 5 and 6 – was that it was when I relinquished the power that came with equal earnings that I actually gained my power. I found that hiding behind an equal bank balance was what really stripped me of my power.
There is so much more power that comes with the knowledge of who you truly are rather than the person you want others to see you to be.
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so so true. You couldnt have said it better.
Yup. Still surprised how little difference the zero bank balance makes to the power dynamics in our relationship. Always thought it would have huge political implications. I think this is due to my husband’s attitude as well as my own. He never makes me feel belittled and neither do I.