Posts Tagged ‘single parent’

 

Destiny … in three parts

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

Part 1:
At the age that most of my remaining single friends are either desperately seeking a man to provide them with a child or considering the option of adopting and single parenting, I have a friend who has a dog. It’s a beautiful sad-eyed retriever who exists on an organic diet of fresh free-range meat and bergie pooh. And it is loved like a child. In fact it is her child … the only child she will consider having. She is at risk of losing her hot Swedish boyfriend because of her decision. And he is at risk of losing his hot Jewish girlfriend because he won’t compromise on having a family.

She takes care of her dog, her sister and her mother – she’s not lacking in the care department – but there is not even one cell in her body that wants a child … there is not even one cell that is curious about it. She just isn’t wired that way.

Uno vs Duo

Thursday, July 23rd, 2009

There are friends who are getting on … sort of 40ish … and think that they might adopt, use a turkey baster … whatever … because they don’t want to miss out on having kids. But they are concerned about being single mothers. Well, there is an argument for that … as there always is.

When you are a single parent, you make sure things are as you want them, you take care of everything and stuff just sort of settles into place because you are in control of the outcome. When you have to rely on a partner, there is a far greater risk of being disappointed, let down and just generally pissed off because if you think you can relax when your partner is around to share the drama, it generally turns out that, as involved or interested as he is, he just doesn’t do it the way it’s meant to be done – he does it the way he thinks it should be done … and no matter how much coaxing and coaching you do, he will always think he knows better than trust your more experience-based knowledge. Just because men are men, it doesn’t make it suck any less … it just makes the alternative slightly easier to deal with.